'Quarter-life crisis'

I received this from a friend yesterday...and my, nothing can explain it better than this! I don't know whether Yk. Ram is its original writer or not but am just including his/her name in to avoid being accused of plagiarism. Do take time to read it to understand 'us' more!

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."

It is when you stop going along with the crowd
and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself
that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two,
but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe,
those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly
the greatest people you have ever met
and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most
important ones.
What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too
and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere,
but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job.
It is not even close to what you thought you would be
doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing
that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups,
of socializing with the same people on a constant basis.
But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more
than usual because suddenly you realize that you
have certain boundaries in your life and add things to
your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on
to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you
loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed
and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe you can love someone else too
and cannot figure out why you are doing this
because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap
and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over
and talk with your friends about the same topics
because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great,
right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times,
trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Send this to your twenty-something friends...maybe it
will help someone feel like they are not alone in the state of confusion
that are our postgrad years!!!

Thank You


Yk. Ram
Rampc System (M) Sdn. Bhd